So you have just turned 50. Does that mean, once you hit menopause or if you are currently experiencing menopause, you appetite for sex will diminish and you will no longer have the desire to want to have sex anymore?
There is such a stigma that once you turn that golden age of 50 most women if not all women have little to no interest in sex again. This is such a misconception and could not be further from the truth.
It doesn’t help that the media’s contribution to this propaganda has allowed it to become so mainstream, that it is a challenge to prove otherwise.
Judging from the depictions put forth on public television, internet, social media, etc, one would think that sex was only reserved for those in their twenties to late forties.
Yes, there are those women who may have lost their appetite for delicious, mind-blowing, great SEX. And, I am going to venture out on a limb here and say, some of these women, probably didn’t care much for sex in the first place or they just didn’t have the right partner to satisfy or please them in that department or maybe their diet was atrocious.
(and yes, ladies, your diet does affect your hormones) or it could even be a psychological or physiological problem and I could go on and on.
Look! the point I’m trying to make is there are a large number of women who are still having a healthy, enjoyable and pleasurable sex life.
Sex at midlife and beyond can be truly Amazing.
Some women will do themselves a huge disservice to buy into this lie. Men are glamorized and women are made to feel old. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Sex is a beautiful thing and it is a natural part of life, to desire intimacy. Women are not exempted from this rule, at any age.
A Few Facts:
• For some women, hormonal changes during menopause or postmenopause can affect a woman’s sexual response. A drop in estrogen levels can cause vaginal dryness, causing discomfort during sex if there isn’t sufficient lubrication. Some women, while experiencing the symptoms of lower testosterone levels can lead to a lack of energy and a weaker sex drive. Whereas for other women they may find their interest in sex increases after menopause because there is a shift in the ratio of testosterone to estrogen and progesterone.
• Many women find increased sexual pleasure after menopause, including more frequent or more intense orgasms.
• Masturbation can increase sexual pleasure, both with and without a partner. For women, it helps keep vaginal tissues moist and elastic and boosts hormone levels, which fuels sex drive.
Most definitely sex isn’t going to stay exactly the same as you age, that goes without saying. But the changes that take place don’t have to be all negative. Once a woman has gotten over menopause she no longer has to be concerned about pregnancy or that dreaded monthly cycle, this makes it easier to relax and look forward to lovemaking. And for those women retired or semi-retired they will often have more time and energy for making love as well as enjoying a more active lifestyle.
At this stage in the game you should know your own body and your partner’s intimately, and, hopefully, you’ve probably figured out how to communicate what you find pleasurable and what you don’t. It’s likely that by now you are very comfortable to have less sexual inhibitions, and being more sexual confidence and experienced will more than likely result in better sex for both you and your significant other.
Just as important, sex may be more emotionally and spiritually fulfilling because now it is driven less by hormones and more by the desire to share yourself with someone who loves you. Sex at this age may be less often, but many find it becomes more gratifying than ever.